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I’m Not Here To Make Friends

Sam Smith, Calvin Harris, Jessie Reyez

Album Gloria

“I’m Not Here To Make Friends” is the eleventh track from Sam Smith’s fourth studio album: “Gloria”, which was released via Capitol Records on the 27th January 2023.

“I’m Not Here To Make Friends” features Scottish producer Calvin Harris and Canadian singer-songwriter Jessie Reyez, both of whom Smith collaborated with in 2018 on the track “Promises”. The intro features a famous signature quote from infamous drag queen RuPaul: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gon’ love somebody else?”. Lyrically, the track sees Smith reveal their desire for an intimate – even if temporary – encounter with a lover. Rather than make friends at a party, Smith is aiming to take someone home with them. Speaking to Apple Music, Smith revealed their thoughts on the song:

“It was a joy to make. I went on a date the night before [the track was made] and I was just so sick of going on dates where people treated me like a friend or just wanted to meet me because I’m Sam Smith…”

The music video for “I’m Not Here To Make Friends” was released on the 27th January 2023 via Smith’s official YouTube channel. Directed by Tanu Muino, video caused controversy due to it’s sexual nature – even making headline news in the UK. As of the 16th February 2023, the video had a total of 11.8 million views.

The lyrics to “I’m Not Here To Make Friends” can be read here.

*All information accurate at the time of publishing. 

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Release Date

27th January 2023


Sam Smith, James Napier, Mikkel S. Eriksen & Tor Erik Hermansen


Calvin Harris, StarGate, Jimmy Napes & Sam Smith



Chart Rankings

- #40 in Australia - #38 in Belgium - #21, #30 & #32 on various charts in Canada - #59 in France - #100 in Germany - #53 on the Billboard Global 200 - #32 in Ireland - #5 in Japan - #45 in Lithuania - #31 & #67 on various charts in the Netherlands - #2 in New Zealand - #150 in South Korea - #2 in Sweden - #50 in Switzerland - #23 in the UK - #71 on the US Billboard Hot 100 - #32 on the US Billboard Adult Top 40 - #26 on the US Billboard Mainstream Top 40 *All chart rankings accurate at the time of publishing.

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